To some of my more politically active acquaintances, friends, and family, I may be perceived to be complacent in my opinions of current political issues due to the lack of comment through social media. Believe me; I have written myself into a few debates waged in the arena of comment boxes before rethinking and deleting myself out of the ensuing carnage. Of course I have opinions and beliefs for which in the past I have debated to the point of shouting–people who don’t know my stubborn aggressive side will doubt this statement, and honestly, I hope to be a better man than to show it to you–but I do try to keep my political stirrings away from facebook.
How amazingly interesting is language? I don’t think I will rattle too many feathers by stating that most conflict is a matter of communication difficulties. When in a dispute, I have found defining key terminology to be quite helpful. Otherwise, people with a decent vocabulary can twist any statement by being indirect just enough. I guess an example should be made. Take the difference between saying, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman,” and “I . . .” well, you get it. That is an extreme because it was just plain lying, but the concept works (with the right legal aid). English may not be the most efficient language, but it is flexible. Look up how many words Shakespeare invented.
Go back a bit, I have thought of a more current example. Sorry, the subject matter is once again sex, but there is nothing Americans are more coy about than coitus, getting down, the horizontal hula. So, take mother Lockte’s remarks about Ryan only having time for one night stands. Of course his mother did not intend to inform the world her son was a man-wh***; however, the words are out there, and now they are on damage control. With such a differentiation between the intended meaning and the perceived meaning of what we say–which is only exemplified in written word since tone and inflection are not easily conveyed–I avoid controversial issues on social networks. On my blog, I give myself some leeway since 1. web logs have become known for political rants and polarized social topics, 2. posts are not inserted into someone’s reading wall/newsfeed (one must visit the site,) and 3. the format allows enough words to explain a stance before chaos and emotions ignite.
If you hate social networking so much why are you participating in the facebook-twitterverse?
I love social networking. I use it to stay in contact with those whom I may not have had any contact. Furthermore, I am soooo grateful that I can be directly connected to my family and friends back home while over seas. On previous travels, social networking had just been getting started. As a practical tool to spread my voice and the mission ahead of me, and for communicating with those supporting me, I find social media invaluable.
I can also understand making declarations. If you want to stand on a digital box and declare your position or view of the world, I do not hold it against you. For myself, as a Christian leader (which I am weather I like the title or not) and in this culture, I am not going to arbitrarily alienate any group of people because of the values I hold for myself and those who have chosen to follow my lead. I want to be known as a man of love. I desire to be invited into the home of the tax collector. I want to give my life to those who are hurting, to see them find purpose, and that will not happen in 150 characters or less. This passion drives me to the people of Cambodia. They hurt and they deserve a chance. I go to edify, to serve, to Love. Not to condemn the corruption and debauchery, but to equip them to rise above. Ultimately, I want all people to know the love of God. The process of sanctification comes later and most likely not through facebook posts.
Please take note that I do not have any certain persons in mind when writing this. I simply want to make my perceived lack of stance understood.
If you want to know my views on gay marriage, who should be the next president, healthcare, gun control, or whatever, ask me in person so that I can tell you to your face, I love you!